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All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten: Uncommon Thoughts on Common Things
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The Importance of Simplicity, Kindness, and Empathy
All I Really Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten, explores the importance of simplicity, kindness, and empathy offering life lessons through seemingly ordinary tales. Essays such as “Angels,” “Vacuums,” and “Mother Teresa” prominently illustrate these virtues and how they manifest in various aspects of life, thus revealing their transformative power.
In “Angels,” Fulghum discusses the life of Eli Angel, a man for whom he had great respect. He was, Fulghum writes,
a generous man, he was active in helping other immigrants settle into their adopted country. His belief was that what good a man does comes back to him. When he died, the synagogue was filled to overflowing. They called him a tzaddik—a righteous man, worthy of respect (21).
Through the life and death of Eli Angel, Fulghum illustrates how simple acts of kindness and empathy, such as aiding others in need, garner deep appreciation and remembrance. Fulghum effectively uses Angel’s story as a parable for the virtues of a well-lived life, emphasizing that the echoes of one’s good deeds can resonate far beyond their immediate effects, thereby cultivating a legacy of love.
In “Vacuums,” Fulghum engages in a conversation with an old friend, a vacuum salesperson who himself prefers to use manual, old-fashioned tools. Fulghum explains that his friend’s preference stems from his respect for the community-oriented ethos of the Amish who, in this account,
believe that those things that do not serve the family, the community, or the individual well should be avoided. Noisy engines separate people and make it hard for them to sing together while they work, and even harder to think when they work alone (71).
The vacuum salesperson’s vexed relationship with his product serves as a metaphor for the broader human condition: our often-complicated relationship with progress and the allure of returning to simpler, more fundamental ways of living. In this way, Fulghum uses the essay “Vacuums” to invite a reconsideration of the value of simplicity.
Moreover, in the story “Mother Teresa” Fulghum reflects on the life and legacy of Mother Teresa, and the lasting impact of her simple yet profound acts of kindness. He notes,
If ever there is truly peace on earth, goodwill to men, it will be because of women like Mother Teresa. […] [P]eace is not something you wish for; it’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away (121).
Fulghum encapsulates the core philosophy of Mother Teresa, positioning peace not as a passive hope but as a proactive endeavor rooted in everyday actions. This peace and goodwill are created through the simple, kind, and empathetic actions of individuals. He goes on to pronounce that “We can do no great things; only small things with great love” (121). Ultimately, he concludes, this attitude of love and kindness—and the actions it inspires—outweigh whatever theological or ideological quarrels he has with her.
The Value of Community and Shared Experiences in Fostering a Meaningful Life
All I Really Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten examines the themes of the value of community and shared experiences in fostering a meaningful life through stories about communal harmony and neighborly affection.
In “Weiser, Idaho,” Fulghum describes his time at the Grand National Old-Time Fiddlers Contest in Weiser, Idaho. This remote town transforms into a bustling cultural hub each June, attracting a global audience, thus epitomizing the themes of unity and connection. Fulghum uses the festival as a microcosm to illustrate broader societal connection. He notes, “[T]he town stays open around the clock, with fiddling in the streets, dancing at the VFW hall, fried chicken in the Elks Lodge, and free camping at the rodeo grounds” (81). Fulghum paints a picture of communal vitality, he describes Weiser as a place of collective celebration, embodying a spirit of unity and shared joy. Fundamental to this essay, is the universal connection Fulghum observes taking place through music: “[T]hey still don’t care what you look like. It’s the music that counts” (82). In this essay, music serves as a bridge that transcends superficial societal division.
Similarly, “Buffalo Tavern” offers a glimpse into the dynamics of community and shared celebration at a rural bar: “Buffalo Tavern is, in essence, mongrel America. Boiled down and stuffed into the Buffalo on a Saturday night, the fundamental elements achieve a critical mass around eleven“ (113). Like the music festival in Ohio, the Buffalo Tavern engenders community across differences, providing a place for interactions not available elsewhere: “[P]eople come to the Buffalo to drink beer, shoot pool, and dance [...] playing stomp-hell rockabilly with enough fervor to heal the lame and the halt” (113). Here, the tavern emerges as a sanctuary where music and shared activities have a therapeutic effect, mending emotional wounds. The phrase “heal the lame and the halt” (113)—a reference to the miracles performed by Jesus—lends the tavern a spiritual cast, suggesting that societal cohesion and community can be found in many unlikely places.
Fulghum returns to this theme in the essays on Mr. Washington, introduced in “Next Six Stories.” “Most of us have had a good neighbor in our lives,” he writes, “Or else we are that person to someone else. We watch each other. And, for good or ill, learn from one another. The people next door play a substantial role in our lives. Yet we seldom choose them” (195). Here, Fulghum uses a contemplative tone to delve into the paradox of neighborly relationships, emphasizing their significant yet often underappreciated role. The phrase “we seldom choose them” highlights the random nature of these connections (195), underscoring a deeper commentary on the serendipitous and inevitable intertwining of lives within a community.
The Significance of Early Childhood Lessons in Adult Life
In All I Really Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten, a central tenet, as reflected in the title, is the significance of childhood wisdom. Central to Fulghum’s collection is the assertion that the foundational lessons from our earliest years, illustrated through the childhood joys of playing hide-and-seek and using crayons for the first time, continue to have profound implications. He advocates for a return to these basic values in a complex world.
Fulghum uses the game of hide-and-seek as a metaphor for complex adult realities in his story about a man who, diagnosed with terminal cancer, chose to isolate himself from his loved ones. Fulghum writes,
He didn’t want to make his family and friends suffer with him, so he kept it a secret. And he died […] His family and friends said how angry they were that he didn’t need them, that he didn’t trust their strength. And it hurt that he didn’t say goodbye. He hid too well (26).
Hide-and-seek, at its core, is a game about seeking and being found; the hiders must trust that they will be sought after. In this instance, the man’s decision to ‘hide’ by not disclosing his illness to his loved ones resulted in a sad and lonely fate, reflecting the essential human need for connection. Isolation often results in lost opportunities for support and shared experiences. Fulghum reflects, “Getting found would’ve kept him in the game. Hide and seek, grown-up style. Wanting to hide. Needing to be sought. Confused about being found” (26). Here, the simple lessons of hide-and-seek extend far beyond the playground. The game is about vulnerability, the need for connection, and the courage to be found. This translates into a life lesson about the importance of trusting others with one’s struggles. The game becomes a metaphor for the essential emotional exchanges in adult life, where being metaphorically “found” means being acknowledged and supported. The wisdom here is about the strength found in vulnerability, allowing others to “find” us when we “hide,” thereby fostering deeper bonds.
In “Crayolas,” Fulghum describes the reactions people of all ages have when given a set of crayons:
[W]hat I noticed that every adult or child I give a new set of Crayola to, goes a little funny. The kids smile […] Then they go to work on the nearest flat surface and will draw anything you ask, just name it. The adults always get the most wonderful kind of sheepish Smile on their face—a mixture of delight and nostalgia and silliness. And they immediately start telling you about all their experiences with Crayola (160).
Early childhood experiences, like using crayons, leave a lasting imprint on individuals, evoking “nostalgia” and reinforcing personal identity. Within this nostalgia, adults reminisce about their experiences with Crayola crayons to find elements of their former selves rekindled, demonstrating how formative these early artistic explorations truly were. These crayons become representative of healing, camaraderie, and vision, grounding adults in their creative, youthful essence; an essence, Fulghum argues, that should be embraced to counteract the destruction wrought by adults. Human imagination, initially sparked by tools like crayons, Fulghum asserts, has been misdirected into inventing weapons of mass destruction and creations of terror. He advocates for a return to the imaginations of childhood. Fulghum contrasts this innocence and creativity, symbolized by crayons, with the destructive capacities of adult-made creations in his call to action:
when I consider the horrible things we have developed at horrifying expense to drop out of the sky, and when I think about what those weapons will do—well, then, I’m not confused about what’s weird and crazy and absurd. And I’m not confused about the lack of, or the need for, imagination in low or high places we could do better. We must do better (161-62).
This juxtaposition highlights the contradiction between the pure, imaginative capacities nurtured in childhood and the often-destructive applications of creativity in adulthood. Fulghum uses this contrast to emphasize that the lessons of creativity, imagination, and innocence, foundational in early childhood, are not only essential but necessary in guiding more humane and constructive actions in adult life. By doing so, he advocates for a reconnection with these early lessons to inform and improve our adult decisions, suggesting that a return to these foundational principles could lead to more ethical solutions to global challenges.
Fulghum calls on adults to embrace the creativity, openness, and curiosity of childhood. His essays serve as a clarion call to reclaim the innocence and imaginative spirit often lost as an adult. By advocating for a reconnection with these fundamental principles, Fulghum seeks more ethical and imaginative solutions to contemporary issues, thus emphasizing that the lessons of early childhood are not merely memories but essential guides for life.
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